I feel you dude. But, donât think it was all for nothing.
I had a similar thing going on. I liked this person, I thought they liked me back. We went to prom, it was okay. But after that, we never really talked again. I still liked that person for a while, but it eventually dwindled into nothing. Donât get me wrong, this person was very nice, polite, and whatnot. But, it happens.
Now youâre probably saying to yourself, âWhatâs the point of admiring someone if youâre going to eventually forget about them?â
In a sense, you never do. You figure out what you appreciate in people. Sometimes, we fall in love with their qualities, and not the person. Which is perfectly okay. Weâre all young, naive, somewhat clueless and confused. Itâs all a part of growing into your own unique person.
I heard this thing from the outro of an Anamanaguchi album or something and it went something like this: âPeople we like are reflections of what we want our selves to be, and people we dislike are a reflection of things we are afraid of becoming.â (Extremely rough interpretation, but you get the point.)
Think about what you liked about that girl. Was it her positive energy you fell for? Maybe it was her way of saying things? Was it her smile that brightened your day? Maybe youâll find someone with all of those qualities (plus more!), maybe youâll find someone different. But I can say for sure that regretting your lack of action towards confessing or asking her out is not going to help you. Whatever qualities you admired about her, work on it for yourself. Did you like how optimistic she was? Try to be optimistic yourself. Did you like the way she complimented people? Try complimenting others yourself.
Donât feel down, there are lots of other people out there. Weâve only experienced a small puzzle piece of the complete picture we call life. We may look at that piece as our whole life, but in a few years, youâll realize that the world is huge. So many people to meet, so many things to experience. And whatever youâre thinking now, youâll look back at it and think how petty it was. Good luck.